Before I got sober in 2009, it's like I had fallen into a deep, dark hole of anxiety.

A fear hole. Anxiety hell.

And the only way out?

Was to slowly, intentionally climb.

One moment, one day, one calming breath at a time.

If you're here because you're struggling with the fear of being alone, please know this: you are so not alone in that. It might feel like it when you're literally alone in your room or waking up with a pounding heart, but I promise you—this is a super common experience for so many people in sobriety and in healing.

This was me too.

Before I got sober in 2009, I had basically every anxiety disorder in the book. I was on benzos (Klonopin prescribed by my psychiatrist), and still afraid to leave the house, drive on the freeway, be alone, speak publicly...

I felt like I was afraid of everything.

There were days I literally couldn’t walk out my front door. I lived across the street from a convenience store in San Francisco and couldn’t even cross the street to get snacks.

If you feel like you're afraid of being alone, if anxiety is flooding your system in waves, please know:

When you're stuck in fear—especially fear of being alone—your nervous system is on high alert.

You're in what science calls the sympathetic nervous system (aka stress mode).

Adrenaline, cortisol and 30 other chemical party animals are throwing a full-on rave in your bloodstream.

Racing heart.
Racing thoughts.
Sweaty palms.

Spinning stories in your mind.

The first step?

Breathe.

Like seriously, try this with me:

This is not a magic cure. It won’t erase all your anxiety.

But it’s the switch that dims the light on the anxiety rave.

We call this turning on your parasympathetic nervous system (aka rest and digest mode).

When your anxiety is super high—like can't-leave-the-house, can't-breathe, can't-stop-panicking level—breathing might not be enough.

And that’s okay.

Distraction is your best friend in the beginning.

Not forever. Not long-term. But right now.

Distraction helps interrupt the spiral. 

Any small disruption can help.

Distraction is great for right now.

But if you want to truly heal your anxiety?

You need to train your nervous system.

Like building physical strength requires lifting weights, building emotional regulation requires daily reps that teach your body to come out of fear and back into safety.

One of my favorite practices for this is Progressive Muscle Relaxation.

You tense and release different muscle groups—from your head to your toes or vice versa.

It’s a guided experience (I’ll link you to mine below!) and helps calm the physical symptoms of anxiety by signaling to your brain: we are safe now.

Think of each calming practice as a calm coin you drop in your nervous system bank.

You are investing in your freedom.

And those calm coins add up.

I haven't been afraid to leave the house since 2009.

I haven't had an anxiety attack since 2012.

And I’m not special.

I just trained my brain and body to not live in anxiety hell.

I know freedom is possible for you.

I believe in your liberation.

I want you to live the full, expansive, expressive life that’s waiting on the other side of this fear.

Your freedom is worth fighting for. You are worth fighting for.

I believe in you.  And I’m cheering you on.

If your anxiety has you terrified to be alone—if you’ve been waking up with your heart pounding, spinning in fear, and wondering how you’ll even make it through the day—you don’t have to stay stuck here.

Inside my course Digital Anxiety Pill, I teach you the exact techniques I used to get out of anxiety hell and rebuild my life.

You’ll learn how to calm your body in the moment, stop anxiety spirals before they take over, and feel safe enough to actually enjoy being in your skin again.

These are simple, science-backed tools you can do from your phone—right from your bed, couch, or wherever you’re hiding from the storm.

Start with just one short lesson a day and begin rewiring your brain.

You deserve peace.
You deserve freedom.

And this course was made for the exact version of you who’s afraid to leave the house. Let's change that. You can start by clicking the button below and reading stories from my students.